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Tag: mourning

the stones I cannot place

Posted on 13 November 201213 November 2012 by mira

My mother’s ‘passing’  has crippled my writing.  And apparently that’s not all. It would be unfair to blame her, per se, because that would be rude.  But I’ve had a sneaking suspicion that she’s had a hand in it.  Some lesson left to teach. I thought what would be fitting (I had this brilliant idea…

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daily kaddish: for mourning itself

Posted on 23 November 201128 November 2011 by erin

Mira said it really well—our yearlong project of mourning together in this “kaddish in two-part harmony” project has done the job. It has worked so well that we both feel good and done with mourning itself. Our grief is replaced with happiness, and there are moments when that feels—well, sad.

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a mourning mourning morning

Posted on 23 November 2011 by mira

At a certain point, I suppose, I just got sick of the whole damned enterprise. And that was the time to step back and write a paper about our process. Which we did. And presented at the Annual Meetings of the American Anthropological Association in Montréal. We just got back. The presentation went really well….

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like an addiction, it’s hard to stop—

Posted on 28 October 201128 October 2011 by mira

I can’t quite take the pictures down. Can’t quite stop staring at them. Can’t call it an altar exactly, but I know others do. Others have. And others will.  How do we stop mourning and put the pictures away? And the candles. And the little mementos and ritual objects that surround those photos that remind…

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daily kaddish: for Syl Nemes, Mr. Soft-Hackle

Posted on 7 July 20117 July 2011 by erin

Today’s Kaddish is for trout-fishing and in particular soft-hackle wet-fly flyfishing eminence Syl Nemes, and it’s a partial response to @Kaia Fahrenholz’s question about not feeling sad about death.

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I’m all kaddished-out, she said… — the real secret of mourning rituals…

Posted on 29 June 201129 June 2011 by mira

I know I brought this up on my last post — the one on suicides — about just feeling all kaddished-out.  And then, hearing of Randy’s suicide, feeling that there was more to say. Much more.  But then even that was not sustainable. I mean, here am I — Dr. Doom, as my housemate calls…

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daily kaddish: just another day in our year

Posted on 22 June 2011 by erin

Mira and I have been talking backstage about the themes in the daily Kaddish. Sometimes I ask her, “What should today’s Kaddish be about?” or a variation of that question, because there’s just nobody or nothing specific I have in mind.

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daily kaddish: a kaddish for mr. one-paw

Posted on 15 December 201023 March 2011 by david

It’s a lesson I have to relearn each time: the hardest thing is the sudden deprivation of rituals. This is the last time Fuller will ever be on my lap. Friday was the last time Fuller played with his favorite catnip mouse. One minute he’s here, the next he’s gone.

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  • killing you loudly—a kaddish
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