Today V and I had our final meeting with the mediator and reached agreement on our settlement, including wrapping up all the financial details into a single number—a check written from one to another. After some signatures, a visit to the notary public across the street at the copy shop, a check to the mediator, and getting cash for the filing fee, we were done. We both thanked the mediator, and then we said goodbye. I said thank you, but perhaps it wasn’t clear for what.
Our marriage is now for all practical purposes over. The only thing left is to wait for the court to process the filing and issue the final papers. If all goes as the mediator expects, we will be officially divorced as of 29 December 2011, two days short of three years and two months after we got married on 31 October 2008, right before California passed Prop. H8 and once again made it illegal for gay and lesbian couples to get married.
Tonight’s recording is Kaddish for my marriage, played on a B♭ Wagnertube.